Do we need to define group dating and single dating?
Here in NZ, from my experience.
Group dating starts at 16 ( where mor ethan just one couple goes on an outing) for me anyway because it is a great time for our teens and early adulthood, to get to know everyone around them at that age. They are a little and more mature than 13 and they will be able to see how certain people are, around others and how they are treated in front of others.
Single Dating that is more like Steady dating where there is only one that you are focused on for a time.
Teaching your children to look for similar goals, or a person that will compliment them. Either one I know it is going to be hard to deal with but if I teach my children to understand and 'choose a consequence that they want and then make the choice'.....that may help my child think before she acts. I think dating will be fun for our children. Scary for us but fun for them!
I don't think that I would like my daughter to date before she is 15, which I realize is really double standard as I was dating at 14, but now the shoe is on the other foot so as to speak, I think I'm probably going to be one of these over protective mothers
I definitely think there's a big difference in what age a son should date as opposed to what age your daughter dates.
I guess at the end of the day though, you can only try to guide them as best as you can and hope that they are sensible and responsible. After all, you can't be with them 24/7.
This is all "after the fact," since my youngest is 19. None of our children were allowed to date prior to age 16, and then they were encouraged to socialize in group situations only. They did have friends of the opposite sex at earlier ages but were not allowed to formally date. I see children as young as 11 or 12 dating these days and it seems terminology has changed to where date=sex. This is totally inappropriate in my book. Children are ill equipped emotionally to handle the emotional fall-out of a sexual relationship, not to mention the consequences of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. It is difficult enough to deal with these things as an adult.
I do agree that the same age standard for girls should be applicable to the boys as well.
I have not let any of my kids date until they were 15 years old. I figure when they are in high school and have a year of experience on how people are in high school they can go out on a date if they want to. My sons and daughters had boy friends and girlfriends but they did not see each other out of school functions to really go on a date until they were at least 15. Having them all at 15 or above except one they still do not date all that often.
Name: Bob
Comments: First of all... Your son HAS to date before 18, I mean I started sating at 12 and have been fine ever since, your son needs to "experience" more then one woman in his life and if you keep him from dating that will just make it harder to find someone he really likes.
Name: Me
Comments: I think it depends on how mature the teen is. If you set an age your child could want to date just to break this rule. I hope I can help.
Name: Teenager
Comments: So I believe that going in to middle school is okay. I mean those relationships are not real but it gives them the idea of relationship, so once they get to high school they know what they want. I'm 15, currently dating a guy for 8 months and were mature and fine. I had relationships in middle school but those were for people just to say they had a boyfriend and you wont see or talk to them out side of school really. I've only had 2 real relationships one that was about 5 months, a summer fling thing, then the one I'm in now. If your too protective you'll get rebellion and they will be lying and hiding things behind your back so they can be with their boyfriend/girlfriend. Honestly just use your brains people
QUOTE (JoePublic @ 12-Jul 09, 3:51 PM) |
so once they get to high school they know what they want. |
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Honestly just use your brains people |