I believe it all depends on the two individuals strength and desire to be with each other, however, with that said any relationship has stress, and the more you add to it the harder it will be to maintain. That is the key - not the initial meeting - but the maintainance of the relationship as race is a big issue, even if you try to convince yourself it is not. If you do not believe me then listen to someone who is angry about someone from another race - they will tend to focus on the race of the individual rather than the problem itself.
I believe that an inter racial relationship is no different from same race relationships. To be truthful we are all inter racial. I'm english, irish, scottish, french. Granted they are all white races but it's still inter racial. Whether people like it or not it's every where. They just need to get over it and quickly.
Glyphfury, I do not think is as simple as you put it. I think interracial and intercultural relationships really have a lot of challenges. Of course, any type of relationship has its challenges but the ones mentioned within this thread are unique.
The only difference I see is cultural differences. They may bring more stress to a relationship. Then again I have never cared about what others thought of my relationship and focused on us not them. I know it's not as simple as I put it but it is for me.
Ok, this is going to sound like quintessential Amnesty party doctrine, but I personally believe we are all human, and we all should love each other no matter what.
Since this is a relationship, it should be a more magnified.
The stupid cross-cultural/racial bickering is just that stupid.
Interracial relationship polarities can easily be bridged by unconditional love. Really, it's not that difficult.
People need to learn to stop focusing on appearence.
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While I am not in an interracial relationship, I am in an intercultural relationship.
Yellowknife's statements are, in my opinion, a bit naive. There are many times where the mixes of different cultures can create great conflict. This is true even when there is great love within a relationship.
It appears to me that most, if not all, of the time there is an interracial relationship there is also an intercultural relationship. So, besides the obvious outside pressures of bigotry, family and societal pressures, there are these internal conflicts. All of these things can add up to make a relationship much more fragile than most would expect.
Now, one more quick point. These different cultural norms are even strong, perhaps much stronger, when both people come from the same country. After all, wouldn't you expect that two people from the same country, perhaps even the same city would share a common culture?
But it doesn't happen that way when you talk about interracial relationships. Because even in the same city, two different races may have vastly different cultural expectations, celebrations, activities, and prejudices. So, when two people get together from these different cultures, the differences may be magnified by the expectation that they DO share a common culture. So, the culture clashes become magnified, causing extra problems.